Musings of a Marfan Mom

July 15, 2009
by marfmom
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Advice

Got to hit the gym for the first time in a couple weeks today! My doc had changed the dosages on my heart meds and that left me practically a zombie (definitely glad to be getting back to my regular dose!), so there was no way I was going to be exercising. I never thought I’d say it, but I missed working out! I usually feel exhausted afterwards but I also feel like I really accomplished something (much like when I did swim team in HS, which is actually a pretty funny story!). Anyhow, I love listening to ska/”punk” (think Reel Big Fish or Yellowcard) and Will Smith when I work out. What are your favorite gym soundtracks?

Also, I need some advice. As I mentioned before, I have been asked to speak on the Living Successfully panel at the National Marfan Foundation conference in 3 weeks. However, I really don’t know what I should speak about. It’s pretty open-ended…I need to speak on something that relates to living successfully. I’ve got 5 minutes. My question to you is this: Now that you’ve heard some of my story (I still have one entry left in the My Life With Marfan “series”), what should I talk about?

Some ideas I’ve thought of:
– How and why I started volunteering/why it’s important to me to volunteer
– Being a mom with Marfan
– My surgeries (which I’ve had, how the recovery was)
– Something else?
– Some combination thereof?

Any suggestions are very welcome! I need to get writing in the next few days so I’ve got time to send it to Eileen at the NMF for editing. Thanks!

Oh! One other thing! Any advice on freezing fresh veggies and drying basil? And when I’m harvesting basil, how do I do that? Just pluck off the leaves? Cut a certain length down on the stalk?

July 13, 2009
by marfmom
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My Life With Marfan, Part 3

Other installments in this series are Part 1, Part 2, and Part 4

I had decided that my mission was to make sure 1) everyone knew about Marfan and 2) people with Marfan knew how to advocate for themselves, especially in emergency situations, so that no one would die of aortic dissections anymore. Impossible goal? Yes. But, I’m only going to stop trying to reach it when I’m dead.

Before I could go about educating anyone else, I realized I needed to educate myself and change my poor attitude. I sent away for materials from the NMF and started researching. In the first year after S.’s death, I wrote an article for the local on Marfan syndrome as a guest columnist and gave a couple of presentations at school to students and staff at my school.

When it came time for my 8th grade graduation present, my mom offered to take me to NYC or to the National Marfan Foundation’s conference in Pittsburgh. The choice was a no-brainer.

Most of my peers plastered their walls with pictures of *N Sync, Leonardo di Caprio, and whoever the other hot celebrities of the moment were. Not me. Every morning I woke up to a big poster of the NMF’s Board of Directors/Professional Advisory Board members. They were my idols. When Mom and I arrived at conference, I felt like I was one of those “nobody” guests at the Academy Awards, watching all the famous people walk the red carpet. “OhmigoshMom LOOK it’s JULIE KURNITZ!!! And she’s talking with CAROLYN LEVERING. Do you even KNOW who they are?!?!

Vincent Schiavelli ran the teen programming back then. At first I was really nervous about participating. I told Vincent I didn’t feel well and that I’d skip the art exhibit trip that first night. He said he would get a taxi for him and me so I didn’t need to walk. Still, I turned him down. Someday, when I’m on my deathbed, if I get asked “Maya, do you have any regrets?” I will say “Only one. I SHOULD HAVE TAKEN THAT TAXI RIDE WITH VINCENT SCHIAVELLI darn it!” Seriously folks, that man was awesome and a gift to the teen program. He was both serious and irreverent and pushed us to view ourselves as capable. Any time I see him in Tomorrow Never Dies I smile.

I don’t think I can ever articulate what the first conference meant to me. It was a lifesaver for sure. It was freeing to be surrounded by12 other kids who understood what it was like to not be able to participate in gym, to have pain, or fear, or heart palpitations. No one questioned me when I said I couldn’t drink pop. It was just…comfortable.

There were two highlights to my weekend. Our friend Barb had traveled to conference with Mom and me, and she was very well connected in the Marfan community. First, she introduced me to Libby Sparks. Libby was a nurse practitioner working under my cardiologist, and they were starting a Marfan clinic. After conference, I switched my care over to Libby, and that might have been the best medical decision I ever made. Throughout the past 10 years she has watched out for me, cheered me on in life, and basically become a part of our family.

The second highlight was dinner with Julie Kurnitz. Barb knew Julie and arranged for a big group dinner at the hotel restaurant. I cannot tell you what we talked about; all I remember is thinking that I was the luckiest girl in the world that someone like Julie would pay attention to me. She even invited my mother and me to a party in her hotel room later that evening! Carolyn Levering (the NMF’s CEO) was there, along with some other “bigwigs.” Mom was really embarrassed that I had dragged her along (she didn’t think the invitation was real) and we didn’t stay a long time, but I will always be grateful to Julie for making me feel so special and important.

I left that conference with an increased sense of self-worth and an even more fervent desire to spread awareness about Marfan syndrome.


The 1999 conference group: 13 Marfan teens + 2 unaffected siblings


The lovely ladies

July 3, 2009
by marfmom
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Marfan 101

Abbey brought to my attention that while I’m doing this series on how I got involved with the National Marfan Foundation, I never have actually explained what Marfan is. So, without further ado, I bring you Marfan 101.

OK, we’ll start with a simple definition from the NMF first. Marfan syndrome is a genetic disorder that weakens multiple body systems, including the heart, blood vessels, bones and joints, lungs and eyes.

To get more complicated, Marfan is a hereditary and dominant genetic disorder. This means that Marfan is caused by a mutation in a gene and that mutation can be passed on. A person with a mutation that causes Marfan will always have Marfan and has a 50/50 chance of passing that mutation on to offspring (unlike, say, cystic fibrosis, which has to have mutations from both parents to manifest itself in a baby).

Marfan affects the connective tissue, and connective tissue is the glue that holds our body together. That is why multiple body systems are affected, because connective tissue is found throughout the body. Researchers aren’t sure why, but Marfan affects every person differently, at least to an extent, even within a family. A parent might be severely affected and have a child who only has mild problems from the disorder, even though they have the same mutation (and there are over 600 known mutations that cause Marfan). Here are some symptoms of Marfan (from the NMF’s site):

Cardiovascular system:
– Mitral valve prolapse (a weakening of the valve)
– Aortic aneurysms anywhere in the aorta (the aorta is the main blood vessel coming from the heart, and an aneurysm is a weakened bulge)
– Aortic dissection (an aneurysm tearing)
– Congestive heart failure

Ocular system:
– Early cataracts
– Early glaucoma
– Dislocated lenses
– Detached retinas
– Severe near-sightedness

Skeletal system:
– Very tall (compared to your family)
– Long arms, legs, fingers, toes, and face
– Very thin
– Curvature of the spine
– Flat feet
– Very flexible
– A chest bone that curves inward or bows outward
– Stretch marks (without other explanation, like pregnancy or sudden change in weight)

Pulmonary system:
– Lung disease, including emphysema, without smoking
– Spontaneous pneumothorax (sudden collapse of the lung)

Neurological system:
– Dural ectasia (a bulge in the sac of fluid surrounding the spine that can cause pain and a host of other problems)

The reason Marfan is life-threatening is because of the chance of aortic dissection. Not everyone with Marfan has major aortic problems (for now at least, I’m one of those fortunate ones), but they can develop at any time and there are no outward symptoms until a dissection occurs. Without prompt medical treatment, a person with a dissection will die. Sometimes it happens within a matter of hours (think John Ritter, although he did NOT have Marfan), sometimes it can take a couple of days or weeks (like Jonathan Larsen).

There are steps that we as “Marfs” can take to protect ourselves. Most of us (myself included) take a blood pressure medication daily to decrease pressure on our aortas. Beta-blockers are the standard of care right now. We stay away from contact sports and isometric exercises (where we hold our breath and strain, like weight lifting) and generally try to keep our heart rates under 100 beats per minute. We’re lucky to live in a time where a lot of research is taking place to improve our lives. When I was first diagnosed 16 years ago, the cardiologist painted a bleak picture for my parents. I am not sure they thought I’d be getting married, let alone having a baby. Now, Marfs have a normal life expectancy with treatment, which is why early diagnosis is key.

I could go on and on about Marfan, so I won’t bore you any further. ☺ But, if you have any questions, just leave them in the comments!