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I’ll start off with the disclaimer that this topic is probably a little tired, but this is what I’ve been reading this week and I feature other blogs on Fridays, soooo, yah, that means I’m going to be a little behind the ball.

By now, you might have heard about the New York Times article that has much of the female blogosphere (aka “Mommy bloggers”) in an uproar. There are SO many things wrong with this piece that it made my head spin. Sure, the author makes a few decent points, but the entire tone of the piece was condescending. If you’d just replaced the women at this conference with men, it would have been an entirely different article. I felt particularly frustrated because this was a conference I had wanted to attend; put together by the women who run SITS. I read most of the blogs referenced and chat with their authors on Twitter. These are women whom I respect and admire.

Joanne Bamberger, aka PunditMom, wrote An Open Letter to the New York Times About Mom Bloggers, Women Writers, & the Universe. Joanne is a former lawyer and accomplished writer with an extensive resume. Sure, she writes about motherhood, but her blog focuses on relevant politics and advocacy. The first paragraph of her article says a lot: I’m so weary of your attempts to marginalize women writers online who happen to be mothers that I almost couldn’t write this letter. But I realized that if I didn’t, I would feel guilty about not trying to change things so that if my fourth-grader ever wants to be a mother and a professional, maybe she won’t have to fight this battle. And yes, I think this is still a battle.

In The New York Times Makes Mommy Wars Even Stupider, Rock & Roll Mama addresses another frustration (besides the feeling of not being taken seriously) that many women bloggers had with the NYT article: the author, Jennifer, is a “mommy blogger” herself! How can she simultaneously try to be a part of the group that she marginalizes and mocks? Rock & Roll Mama explains why Jennifer isn’t really part of our community, all the while making us laugh with her light-hearted, conversational writing style. She’s definitely a blogger I intend to read more of!

I’ve been a fan of Liz Gumbinner of Mom-101 for a long time. She’s insightful and witty and yes, I even enjoy reading about her day-to-day parenting activities. Her article Honey, Don’t Bother Mommy. I’m Writing a Mildly Annoyed Letter to the New York Times discusses the positives and negatives of the NYT article in a very balanced manner. She ends her post with a list of links to other blogs, showcasing a small sample of what female bloggers have been able to accomplish recently.

What do you think about all of this? Leave a comment!

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  1. I don’t think the article was as offensive as the headline. Whoever wrote that headline definitely was trying to stir something up. And I didn’t understand why the reporter included links to so many blogs she referenced, but not to SITS. And speaking of which, SITS sent me by, and I’m glad they did. Happy Friday!

    Skyscraper Jigsaw


  2. I’m glad you weighed in. You added to the discussion by providing solid links, as always I’m jealous of your research skills. I’m going to read the linked to articles now. I saw the article, but missed much of the discussion so thanks for helping me catch up!


  3. I have yet to actually read this article… I think it would make me too mad. But I have enjoyed reading all of the commentaries. Who do they think they are?

    Stopping by from SITS! I’d love to have you visit my blog! Hope you have a great weekend!


  4. I was at the conference this article was written about. I talked to the author and I was photographed by the photographer (didn’t make the article somehow) and I think one of the things that initially upset so many people is that they/we felt betrayed. The lady seemed so nice and sweet and encouraging and genuinely interested in us as professionals, as women, as moms and as bloggers. Upon reading it again (numerous times) and reading her explanation I feel differently and think that this thing is getting taken WAY too far. Hopefully something positive will happen in the mom blogging community soon that gets a great deal of coverage so we can stop feeling the need to defend ourselves and prove this article (and the countless others with similar tone) incorrect.


  5. She definitely got shock value… and a readership bump from the article… I think it illustrates the fine line that is walked between ‘professional’ writing and blogging and that writing for an audience can sometimes stir up a hornets nest… I don’t know if the NYT ever posted any of the responses they got… and if the bloggy traffic was any indication, they got a few :)


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